To Mom, With Love

This Mother’s Day we connected with 5 influential mothers from the  LA chapter of Fashion Mamas about their role in LA’s creative & fashion community and how they juggle being a mom with their careers.

 

 

 

Sacha Strebe
Editorial Director, MyDomaine.com


 
How do you balance motherhood and your career?
 

I take each day as it comes. While balance is something I believe in and aspire to, the pendulum doesn't always swing evenly in both camps. Sometimes it's 80% work and 20% family, while other days it's 20% work and 80% family. You just have to roll with the day and know in yourself deep down that you've given every part of yourself wholly, and fully to whatever it was that you were doing, and most importantly, enjoy it, be there, and be fully present. When I'm at work I give 110% and when I'm with my family I give 110%. I get just as much value from being with my son and family as I do fulfilling my creativity and applying myself to my career. It's important to me that my son see his mom be happy expressing herself and her creative self to the fullest. I think it instills good work ethic and a sense of happiness knowing that I'm happy too. If my work wasn't making me happy anymore, that's when I would need to pivot because I know that it would have an impact on him seeing me unfulfilled and unhappy. 


Best advice for expecting mothers?

 
Expect the unexpected. There is no way to plan for what's coming so just revel in the constant change and embrace the frequency at which it changes too. Every day is different and there is little to no control over what will happen, so just know that there is beauty in that. It's only for a short time too, even though it doesn't feel like it at the time. I remember feeling so confused and tired and overwhelmed and questioning whether I was fit to be a mother, but I truly believe that you only get what you can handle, and amazingly, you do handle it. 


Hardest part of being a mom? Favorite part?

 
Making everyone happy. There will be some (or many) days where you feel like you've been stretched thin because you're taking care of everyone else but yourself. Sometimes I'm so busy answering the demands of my son, my husband, my work colleagues, my friends, that I have nothing left for me. I have been making a concerted effort to put my oxygen mask on first these days and scheduling time alone to nurture my dreams too and for some much-needed self-care. I'm a big advocate of facials!


 

How would you describe your style? Do you think it’s changed as you’ve become a mother? 

My style hasn't really changed that much since I've become a mom. I never wore maternity clothing when I was pregnant. I just chose clothing that worked around my bump and wore a lot of oversized shirt dresses and maxi skirts as dresses with belts (especially at the end). This Cherry dress would have been perfect. I think the main change has been my confidence. I am much more confident in myself and my style than I was before having Neon. I know what I like, and definitely what I don't. There is a really clear aesthetic and it feels much more sophisticated than it did before, but then again, I think this has more to do with my age and how I'm maturing than it does with being a mom. But those lines are blurred so perhaps it's both. 

Favorite NSF pieces and why?

 
I love the Kazuki tee and the zion harem pants as a total look. I would love to see this come out in black, my favorite color. 

 

Describe a funny story that happened with your child/ children recently?

 
My 9-year-old son has been begging me to let him see the new Deadpool 2 movie. He wasn't even allowed to watch the first R-rated film so I'm not sure how or why he thinks my mind will change now the second one is being released. One day as he was asking for the 10th or 11th time (wearing me down is a known pre-teen tactic) he said that I keep treating him like a baby because I don't want him to grow up. While the latter is true, I had to think about the first half. Do I treat him like a baby? Then I realized that I do often call him "baby" as a nickname, something that has carried through from birth and I often call people who I love (family and friends) as an affectionate term. So I told him that I would stop doing that, and start treating him like a boy who's becoming a teenager.
Last night, after a full day of us all having fun at California Adventure Land, I accidentally let the "baby" nickname slip and apologized. He then turned and said to me, "Mom, it's okay, I was out of my mind that day." I hugged him so tight and had to hold back the tears. Sometimes raising a child can be tough and there will be moments where you doubt yourself or question what you're doing, but standing your ground, being honest, and truthful with the foundation of love always wins out in the end. 

 

 

 

Stella Simona
Creative Director/ Co-owner of Amarilo and Haati Chai Jewelry

 

How do you balance motherhood and your career?

It all starts with making time for yourself. As long as I have that time to myself to meditate, and regroup I can take on everything that comes my way.

Best advice for expecting mothers?

Take it one step at a time and remember that your instinct is always true.

Hardest part of being a mom? Favorite part?

I think one of my biggest challenges is that I do get overwhelmed and think I am doing something wrong, but I have to remember this journey is a learning process for my son and I both. My favorite part is knowing that I am raising a little mini me, and I get to watch him and how he grows every step of the way.

 

How would you describe your style? Do you think it’s changed as you’ve become a mother?

I like to dress tonal, in timeless silhouettes, with an overall effortless vibe. 
Since becoming a mother i've found more clarity in all aspects of my life. After having Noah I dress more intentionally and carefully curate quality pieces that really speak to me.
 

My favorite NSF pieces:

When it comes to my wardrobe effortless style and casual comfort are the two big details I consider. That's why I chose the Pepper Dress and Slight Pants

 

Describe a funny story that happened with your child recently?
 

Noah is just so adorable. He recently started using the phrase "Help me" so no matter what he is up to he likes to ask for help. Ice cream is a serious matter to him and when he wants some he says "Help me help me help!" as he points at an ice cream sandwich. It's the cutest thing ever.

 

 

 

 

Jamie Koustas 
Co-Founder of The Current Agency

How do you balance motherhood and your career? 
 
I do my best to keep work and motherhood separate; when I am home with my kids, I try to be present and honor that time.
 
Best advice for expecting mothers? 
 
Becoming a mother will change you in ways you can't even imagine, try to enjoy it, even when it is hard, the moments are so fleeting and the children grow up so fast.
 
Hardest part of being a mom? Favorite part?
 
Balancing it all - I always feel my plate is full (which I also secretly love).  Being a mother is the most rewarding experience you will ever have.
 
How would you describe your style? Do you think it’s changed as you’ve become a mother? 
 
 Growing up in Southern Cal, my style definitely has a laid back California influence - lots of denim.  And yes, it has definitely changed since becoming a Mother, definitely more laid back, more organic, lots of flats - when I am not working.  Work is still dressier and forward, which I appreciate it because I love the mix of dressy and casual in my wardrobe. 
 
 
  
Favorite NSF pieces and why?
 
I love the Carmina jumpsuit , it has so many end uses and can easily get me through the entire day. The Zuma tank because I never have enough stripes - they are a staple. And lastly the Sayde sweatpants and Lisse hoodie - perfect weekend morning look for the coffee run with the kids and dog.

 

Sylvie Esmundo
Influencer of Life.By.Syvlie & Digital Strategist

 
 
How do you balance motherhood and your career? 
 
Becoming a mama has pushed me to be present and focused for every facet of my life. When I’m at work, I’m locked in on work. When I’m at home, I’m all about my family. I now put less pressure on my career to be a defining piece of my identity, since there are new tiny humans that need me to be a mother for them. I’m not leaning out nor leaning in...I’m firmly rooted, face in the sun, grateful for every moment I’ve given both at work and at home.
 
Best advice for expecting mothers?
 
Great moms are not perfect moms. We love hard and learn along the way. Give yourself space to adapt and grow into this new normal.
 
Hardest part of being a mom?  Favorite part?
 
Just when we think we have the hang of it, our babies and kids go through a development leap and we’re back at square one. Favorite part- When their eyes light up when they see you, and crash into you with the biggest hug.
 
How would you describe your style?  Do you think it’s changed as you’ve become a mother?
 
Beach Boheme. Gimme all the lived in denim, breezy tunics, vintage tees, chunky knit sweaters, and gladiator sandals. Comfort and easy care have become primary filters when dressing everyday. And breastfeeding access. 😉
 
Favorite NSF pieces and why?
 
I’ve been living in my Saguro sweatshirt and Hal Tee every weekend - they’re soft and make my weekend Mom uniform look way cooler.
 
Describe a funny story that happened with your child/ children recently?
Well there was that time when my 5 month old daughter was super jet lagged and exhausted and teething and screamed for 3 1/2 hours nonstop in our hotel room at The Jane in NYC and almost got us kicked out. And the second her godmother (my best friend) turned American Idol on the tv, she stopped scream crying and watched the whole episode. We think she’s gonna be a singer. 🤣🤣🤣
 

Zoe Kasiske
Co-Founder of Butter

 

How do you balance motherhood and your career?
 
I am not going to lie, work/life balance is a struggle every day and I am constantly trying to be the best mama I can be, the best wife I can be, and the best business partner I can be. Having my own business comes with its pros and cons when it comes to juggling motherhood and career. On one hand, I get to be flexible and create my own schedule but on the other hand, I am running my own show and nothing will get done if my partner and I don't do it. One non-negotiable I have is 30-60 minutes minimum a day of no phone time with my kids, so important!
 
Best advice for expecting mothers?
 
Accept your support system. It's so easy to want to do it all because you don't want to feel like you are inconveniencing others, but it is so important to accept the help being offered. It can be as small as a friend coming over for 10 minutes so you can take a shower or someone offering to Postmates you lunch - just say yes. It truly does take a village and there is no shame in accepting the support your loved ones want to give you. 
 
Hardest part of being a mom? Favorite part? 
 
The hardest part about being a mama is the guilt that often comes with the balance. Am I giving the kids enough attention? Do I let them watch too much TV? Was I on my phone too much today? It's tough not to constantly analyze myself as a mama, especially being a working mom as life can get chaotic and challenging at times and its important to take a step back and remind myself that every day, I do the best I can, and that is enough. My favorite part is watching my babies grow into their little personalities.  Calvin, my 1.5 year old, is hilarious and such a sweetie, and watching him fall in love with his new little brother has been the most beautiful part of this journey. 
 
 
How would you describe your style? Do you think it’s changed as you’ve become a mother? 
 
I would say my style is comfy chic, I like to feel comfortable while feeling put together. My style has stayed pretty consistent in my transition to motherhood, I would say the biggest difference is now I have to be much more organized when I am getting dressed in the morning or who knows how I may look when I leave the house.
 
My favorite NSF pieces:
 
Zion Harem Pants - multi purpose pants! You can lounge around the house or go out in comfy pants without feeling too schlumpy. 
Pepper Dress - easy every-day throw on!
Hal Tee - cozy and versatile! 
 
 
Describe a funny story that happened with your child/ children recently?
 
 Since we brought his brother home from the hospital, a week ago, Calvin has been carrying around his baby doll and copying everything that my husband and I do to Lincoln. If we change his diaper, Calvin changes his dolls diaper. If I am feeding Lincoln, Calvin pretends to feed his baby doll. He is so proud to be a big brother!
   

#HAPPYMOTHERSDAY